it’s okay not to have it all figured out.

I’ve worked with a few clients lately who were being hard on themselves for “not knowing what they want.”

There’s this expectation out there that you’re supposed to have one neatly packaged plan and then shape your entire career around it.

The same clients often feel bad for switching roles every few years or hopping between workplaces.

Which I fully get, because it can feel messy and overwhelming.

But how else are you supposed to figure out if something is right for you?

Some people get lucky and find something they want to focus on early.

But that’s risky too, what if that one thing stops being an option? Or stops feeling right?

You probably won’t care about the exact same things in your twenties as in your forties. You grow and your priorities shift.

What is helpful is checking in with what truly matters to you. And to do it regularly, but especially when something feels a bit off.

Like this, you can make choices that actually feel aligned.

And don’t beat yourself up for exploring, or changing your mind.

It’s part of the path, not a waste of time or a sign you “don’t know what you want.”

about the author:

Hi there! I'm Silja, the founder of the wholesome growth club, an inclusive hub for career coaching with a soft spot for introverts and perfectionists. I’m an Amsterdam-based expat, but I love connecting with people worldwide. With a background in recruiting, I know the struggle of crafting a career path that feels truly yours. At the wholesome growth club, we're all about fostering sustainable growth, meaningful engagement, and authentic connections. Our blog is dedicated to making coaching accessible and sharing insights to approach work and life with an extra dose of confidence, slow productivity, and self-compassion. If you are curious to make things happen for yourself, get in touch—we offer personalized coaching journeys that will get you closer to your (dreamy) goals in no time.